How often do you have sex with your partner? Do you feel bored in your relationship? One important finding from a survey done by the University of Michigan on 123 married couples, who have been married for 7 years, is that being bored in the relationship led to less closeness which in turn brings about reduced satisfaction in the marriage. So how can you keep things exciting and improve sexual intimacy in your relationship especially when career and family responsibilities wear you down?

Here are some ways to improve intimacy and keep sex exciting in your relationship:

(1) Recognize that sex is not all the time perfect

You have to face the fact. At times your sex life may not be up to your expectation and satisfaction probably due to stress and heavy family responsibilities. That is perfectly normal and it does not mean the end of the world. Sexuality like the tide of the sea ebbs and flows. It is better to accept this as a natural fact of life so that you will not get overly concerned about a possible crisis in your relationship.

(2) Talk and listen to each regularly

Even if both of you have been together for a long time in your relationship does not mean neither one of you can read each other’s minds perfectly. Therefore you have to talk to each other about your likes, dislikes, fears and concerns on sexual and non-sexual matters. Sex gets better with intimacy and improved communication. Besides talking, effective communication also requires the patience to listen to each other. Sometimes your partner only needs to vent his/her own emotions. He/she does not need you to fix his/her problems but just to listen and show you care.

(3) Never stop discovering and exploring each other

You should not assume that you know everything about your partner. Getting involved in what your partner is doing and spending time together (e.g. having a date night once a week) can help you to discover or uncover certain not-so-obvious aspects of your partner. Talking and understanding each other’s sexuality will help you to learn new things about your partner’s body and personality and lead you to discover the kinds of touch that arouse him/her a lot and the types of sex positions that bring her to orgasm quickly.

(4) Keep an open mind and be willing to experiment

Be adventurous in bed and out of bed. Take a trip to a lingerie store, step out of yourself and try to be someone or something else for the evening (role play). Dress up and play sexy games with your partner or introduce sex toys during lovemaking. Try watching an adult movie with your partner to learn some new moves. Go and see a stand-up comedy, go for hiking or horseback riding, watch live music, try new and exotic food and take dance classes together. Go and do the things you have not done before. This will show your partner how much you care. You will be surprised at how much your partner will appreciate you for considering their needs and desires. This will also help to relieve stress and boredom in your relationship and allows you to grow together at the same time.

(5) Remember that there are no hard and fast rules on matters about sex

Making love is not just about mastering the mechanical aspects of sexual techniques. You can pick up a lovemaking manual or read from the online sex guide to learn about the various techniques or sex positions. But sexuality is very personal and every woman has different sexual preferences. Before you unleash your newly acquired sexual knowledge you need to pay attention to the erotic messages behind her various body reactions to your touch and to tailor-made your moves to her individual needs. The goals like what you and your partner would like to get out of having sex and how often do you want to make love will probably change over time and no sex guide can give you any specific guidance on this matter. If you and your partner are happy with having sex once a week or once a month, then that is perfectly fine. There is no connection between sexual frequency and your sexual happiness. But if one of you wants more or less sex than the other, then you have to work things out together. It is normal to have different level of sex drives in a relationship and you should not get overly concerned and bind yourself to some commonly held thoughts.

Each time people talk about how impossible it is to remain chaste and avoid premarital and extra-marital sex, it seems that their words influence more because all costs are not being considered. It is common to hear words suggesting that all those who teach or preach abstinence in respect of sexual intercourse before marriage are hypocrites. When we share our opinions and ideas with others in written form, it is important that we know that as authors, are regarded as authorities and readers are bound to be influenced. In this regard, when a writer state that it is hogwash to talk about abstinence you are telling people that promiscuity is good.

Promiscuity from its root word promiscuous is clearly a bad thing. It means immoral, loose, licentious and wanton. This is not all, it is also necessary to factor the cost of promiscuity such as:
• Sorrow,
• Pain,
• Anguish,
• Disease,
• Unwanted pregnancy and
• The sense of guilt
• Damage to sense of self-worth
• Disruption of one’s progress in life, to mention but a few.

We need to factor these costs also. All considered, abstinence is the way of the wise and premarital and extra-marital sex is the way of the foolish. It is like water and beer. Water is the drink of the wise while beer is the drink of the foolish, even as it is popular. Sexual promiscuity may be popular or common place, but it is still foolish indulgence and can never be elevated beyond that regardless of the wording and grammar used to postulate it.

If we all elect to abstain from premarital sex, there would be enough quality marriages to ensure that nobody have to stay many years in need of unfulfilled sexual urges. It is because of easy sexual intercourse from people of easy virtue, prostitutes and loose morals that is hindering marriages.

Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is ordained of God in legal and lawful marriage relationship.

Part of our responsibility on this earth is to learn to master our appetites and control our urges to enable us be turned into the godhood that is possible for all of us. Sexual and other sensations are serving purposes of testing our ability to grow. The fact that people get tired of having sex with their sex-partners is a pointer that it is not meant to be frittered away as part of fun getting. Sexual intercourse has a big place in the scheme of creation. Used within that bound, it is a beautiful experience even when you are not able to get the wow or blow-job of it. No sexual intercourse can compare to sexual intercourse in purity – within bounds of legal and lawful marriage or what Church people would call holy wedlock. Remember the advert; if it is not panadol, then it is not panadol. There is nothing like it is like panadol.

Regardless of what is said here, each individual know the price they pay. People should count their costs on this subject also so that adults do not stand by and watch a goat give birth with rope around its neck.

Many people have been able to survive the setback caused by premarital sex in their lives and still made good and sometimes great strides and thrived. One thousand times that number is not able to survive it. That choice to get involved in premarital sex changed the course of their lives for bad and they could not escape the price tag.

We have the power to choose what we would. But we do not have power to choose the consequences of our actions. This is called agency or freedom to choose. Our world is created by choice. We are in it by choice and each individual’s choices would shape their character and ultimately their destiny.

Sex is a truly wonderful thing. It’s physically pleasurable and also helps us to connect and share true intimacy with a partner. Sometimes though, it can get just a little bit too intimate and you can end up getting far more than you bargained for. STD’s and unwanted pregnancies are not on anyone’s wish list and contrary to what some people may think, yes it can definitely happen to you.

Learning how to practice safe sex is an imperative step everyone needs to take before engaging in any sexual activity. It can make all the difference between enjoying sex in a positive and fully satisfying light, to dealing with some very regrettable consequences.

STI Prevention and unwanted pregnancies start with having safe sex right from the very start of your sexual life and should always continue through on your sexual journey. By preventing yourself from coming in to contact with anyone else’s blood, semen, vaginal fluids or even breast milk will protect against sexually transmitted diseases (vaginal, oral or anal.) Some of which are easily treatable and some which are unfortunately incurable. Learn how to practice safe sex right from the very beginning to ensure you have a happy and fulfilling sex life.

When learning how to have safe sex, your first and new mantra should always be to use a condom. They are so commonly used that if anyone ever suggests that you don’t use one then you seriously need to think why. No matter how long you have know them for, if they are asking you not to use a condom then it’s more than likely that they asked their previous partner not to use one and will probably ask their next partner not to use one as well. Make a wise decision because no one can look after your body except for you, and you only get one.

How To Use A Condom

1) Use care when opening the packet as not to tear or catch the condom with your fingers.

2) The condom should be held at the teat and then rolled on to the penis. Never open a condom out and then try to put it on. If you don’t have success getting it on the first time, throw it away and use a new one.

3) Watch or help your partner put it on. Ensure that he does it properly and don’t accept it as good to go if you feel that he hasn’t done it correctly. This includes checking the expiry date on the packet and ensuring the condom has been left in a cool dry place as heat can damage the condom.

4) Make sure he puts it on fully and you are happy with the result. If he is flippant with his application the condom can slip off and usually that means inside you. It’s not fun retrieving a condom from depths of your vagina, and while it can happen even when it has been placed on properly, try to prevent this by making he sure it’s done correctly in the first place.

5) If you are using lubricant (common for couples during vaginal sex and essential for anal sex) only purchase a water soluble lubricant. These are also inexpensive and readily available. Lubricant makes sex more comfortable but it also helps to prevent too much friction that can result in the condom breaking or tearing. Never use Vaseline or anything else you may have handy around the house. Not only can they cause you irritation, these products compromise the strength of the condom and can cause them to tear.

6) Don’t let the penis be in contact with the vagina before the condom is on. Also, the penis should be withdrawn immediately after ejaculation with your partner holding the rim of the condom to stop any spillage. Take care to then slip the condom off.

7) Only ever use a condom once.

Preventing sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy is as easy as using a condom but although they are so widely used and mostly successful, the only way to truly protect yourself from getting an STD is to abstain from sex all together. Of course, this is not an option or a lifestyle for most people but knowing this should always make you vigilant to in protecting yourself and your partner.

What can you do with your sexy date in South Africa to really make the encounter pleasurable and memorable for both of you? Many couples that hook up found each other through an online dating site. This is a great way to meet people in your neighborhood, or to discover someone living in South Africa that you can get it on with while you visit the country on business or pleasure. Although, with an online hookup all the business can be pleasure when you have a sexy date to share it with.

To really plan a great sexy date then you must remember that anticipation is the key ingredient to making the encounter hot. You both know that ending the day, or breaking up the day, with a roll in the sack is what you both want. However, the anticipation and teasing that you playfully enjoy throughout your time together will make that casual sex much better.

If you are spending a couple of days with your new sexy friend, then you may enjoy a hike along the Tsitsikamma coast on the Dolphin Trail. There is nothing more effective in getting your testosterone boiling then when you get outdoors and work up your energy as you walk behind and enjoy the view of the bum of someone you want to get a little closer to. The breathtaking beauty of this trek allows you to easily forget the worries or cares of your normal daily life. This is a luxury hike and you can enjoy three nights in comfort along the route. If hotel sex rocks, then hotel sex on the beautiful South African coast can give it a whole new dimension.

If you share my belief that there is nothing sexier than a man that cooks, then plan a sexy date at the Kuhestan Organic Farm where weekend cooking courses are offered. I can think of very little that is more magical, enchanting and sensual that waking up to the misty elegance of the Magoebaskloof Mountains and feasting on a light breakfast while seated before a roaring fire. Don’t be surprised if you feel inspired to eat some of the meal off an inviting part of your partner’s body causing you to be late for your cooking course because of some spontaneous physical heat coming from your room.

If you don’t have a full weekend to enjoy your sexy date, then a good tip is to make your own mini adventure. Why not go to the market together and pick out the foods needed to cook a delightful meal. Imagine which foods would be best tasted off various body parts of your sexy friend. Be sure to whisper to them all that you would like to do with that honey, avocado, or strawberry. Imagine the fun of starting the anticipation for this date through a South African dating site that helps you find the perfect person for your casual, sexy encounter.

The key to a sexy date is to have a little bit of a plan, build up the anticipation, but also be willing to make adjustments along the way. It could just happen that you never quite make it back to the bedroom before your sexy friend pulls you into a quiet corner to give you a little taste of what will follow.

Tip #1 Make a Solid Profile

One should really invest their effort on building a solid profile because this would provide them their first impression of you. This includes disclosure of basic information such as age, sex, and location. Having some pictures of you and customized avatars would be a big help to convince them that you are the real deal. You may also want to maintain accounts with several popular networking sites for them to know you better. The main goal here is to stand out and get yourself noticed.

Tip #2 Make sure they are REAL

So now, it’s your turn to do the checking. Try to get her email address and search for her accounts on major social networking sites. Contacting or registering her as a friend using your own account on these sites should give both of you access to your respective profiles. This should give you permission to view her photos, hopefully in different settings and angles. Don’t act too desperate and comment everything on her profile saying “You’re so pretty” and generic stuff. You don’t want to sound their alarms and mistake you for a stalker.

Tip #3 The Approach

You should be honest with yourself but at the same time, restrain certain actions. Try to project your personality through how speak with them. You may want to present yourself as simple as you can but never lose your romance and humor. Avoid boasting physical features and wealth, although it may attract a certain number of women, most women think you are an idiot that depends on those features. You should always keep your cool if you want them to be into you.

Tip #4 The Conversation

This is the most important part because this connects of both parties with each other. Everything depends on how you communicate with her online so you have to stay focused and pay attention to details. Having a mindset of “I want to know you better” goes a long way when speaking with women. Striking the conversation with “What’s up?” or “How are you doing?” isn’t that much effective anymore. Try starting with “How long have you been a member of this site?” and let her teach you the way to go about the website’s features. Then keep the conversation flowing by saying proper introductions and ask questions that would tell you what kind of personality she has. Ask about her interests and hobbies, and briefly talk about them but take note on what she likes the most and learn about it too. Try to find a “common ground” between the two of you because this will serve as the bond you will share. Also, it may also be helpful to be updated with current events in her place and may also serve as a good topic to talk about. As you keep the conversation flowing, you let her feel more comfortable speaking with you and would give a positive impression of you.

Tip #5 Keep in touch

When the time comes where the conversation has to end, NEVER FORGET to ask when she could chat with you again. Just like ending a successful first date with a schedule for the second one, you need to show her that you want a long term relationship. Tell her you had a good time with her and you’d look forward to speaking with her again. Keep her as an online buddy and meet her personally when opportunity presents itself.

Online dating continues to gather speed as it is an approach working for many. Those that are taking this option when it comes to dating are finding success. Some are seeking a date for fun times with someone while others are searching for a mate. There are options for both.

You could be new to an area and are interested in finding people with your same interests. You could be interested in finding someone to share similar interests with or you want to find that special someone that could lead to a marriage. Using an online dating site is more than just people that are having difficulty finding someone special or to enjoy sharing time with doing fun activities. It has also been a way for busy people for fun or find a mate. It is easy and convenient.

Joining a dating site usually has a membership fee associated with it. There are free online dating sites as well. Remember just because you pay for a site does not mean your privacy is protected or that it helps provide safe dates. A free site can also be safe. One way to know this is if you have to have a background check then others involved will need one as well. Still it is important to keep your private information private. Don’t give this information to a potential date, especially not right away. You could also make sure the website does not sell your information.

When you start with Adultfriendfinder dating site review what is available. Learn everything you can about the site. There are sites that are dedicated to helping you find your soul mate and other sites that are just providing dates for fun times. This review will also help you learn details about the site as well as investigating any deals available for you. Dating sites usually allow you to choose who you contact. Some even go further by providing a block feature. This will allow you to not let this person contact you again or learn anything more about you.

Enjoy your dating experience whether you are seeking a date or a mate. Always be truthful about who you are and be yourself. If you don’t like bowling then let them know you don’t like it, but if you are willing to try something you don’t like then voice that as well. Take your time to get to know your date as well and have fun.

Dating sites are seeing an increase of use because it is showing to work for many looking for dates and mates.

When working on a dating site you are meeting a stranger. Just like when talking to anyone online they could be anyone. They could be saying one thing and the truth is something different. When visiting an online dating site usually these locations require everyone involved to fill out a questionnaire. It is also popular for a background check to be conducted. This will help you feel safer when talking with someone. Still you need to be cautious. It is important for you to take part in the process of being safe on dating sites as well. Your job is to keep your private information private. You never know who else will see what you type even if the person you are talking to is trustworthy. There are many online thieves and predators that are very smart and know how to get private information in different ways.

Be cautious when talking to someone new. If you feel funny about talking with them then just don’t because you have no idea what is true. You might look over a profile and it looks fine, but when you are talking through e-mail or instant messaging you might feel uncomfortable. Then end it. On the other hand you might feel great about your communication so far, but when you start talking on the phone something in your mind or heart tells you something isn’t quite right. Then end it. That means you should never give out private information in these situations. Even giving a phone number or work address could be considered ways of being harmed. It is vital to be in control of your information online.

The time will arrive you might want to meet with someone. Continue to be aware of mannerisms as well as actions from being easy to anger to avoiding certain questions. You really need to be sure about someone before giving them personal information. It is also important for your security to meet them in public places as well as letting someone to know who you are dating or meeting. It might be helpful to meet a date especially for the first time with a group of friends. You will be in a safer environment, but friends can know to let you have some time to get to know your date.

Marketing For Penis Pills – Claims of Penis Enlargement Are MISLEADING

While many of the herbs in penis pills do cause the blood vessels in the penis to vasodialate and other herbs increase blood flow, it is scientifically impossible for any penis pill to actually add mass to your penis – i.e. these pills can NOT make your penis grow in any way. Any insinuation of this is misleading to say the best. Some of the marketing hype I’ve seen is flat out false. I am a scientist, I have studied it, and I know this is true.

Herbs and “Natural Ingredients” In Penis Pills Can Be Very Dangerous

Some people assume that just because something is “natural” or it is an “herb” it can’t possibly be dangerous. This is not at all true. Many of the common herbs contained in penis pills, in fact, are well-known to be dangerous to a man’s health. For example, Yohimbe, one of the main ingredients in penis pills, was named as one of the “dirty dozen of hazardous supplement ingredients” by Consumer Reports. The US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) is currently investigating this herb because of numerous instances of kidney failure, seizures, and death. You should note that the FDA does not usually get involved in the regulation of “herbs” or “food supplements” (officially how “natural penis pills” are classified) unless the harmful effects being reported are really extreme. The FDA calls catuaba, another common herb found in penis pills, a “poisonous herb.” It is well-known to attack the central nervous system and can cause symptoms like headaches, vertigo, mental confusion, and dizziness. Many other ingredients contained in these pills also cause severe side-effects.

There is a huge list of known health hazards due to taking penis pills. These include but are not limited to: heart palpitations, rapid heart beat, severe anxiety attacks, dizziness, nausea, high blood pressure, manic depression, insomnia, renal failure, light-headedness, shortness of breath, paralysis, severe abdominal pain, fatigue, hallucinations, and increased urination. In short, considering all of the potential side effects and how often they occur, these pills are quite dangerous. This is especially true if taken over an extended period of time.

Negative Interactions With Prescription Drugs

Many men don’t realize that penis pills can interact negatively with their prescription drugs. They think because these pills are “natural” they don’t have to worry about negative interactions. Nothing could be further from the truth. For example, if yohimbine is taken with anti-depressants, it can cause a dramatic rise in blood pressure. If Naloxone or Zoloft, which are commonly taken for nervous conditions such as anxiety and bi-polar disorder, is combined with yohimbine, it can create severe anxiety, heart palpitations, and tremors. Yohimbine also interacts negatively with many other common prescription drugs such as Lipitor and Metaformin. It even interacts poorly with fish oil supplements (or any foods high in omega-3).

The Additive and Synergistic Effects Can Be Really Bad

Read the ingredients on any penis pill bottle and you will quickly notice that there are NUMEROUS ingredients – so many in fact, you can use the old expression, “they throw the whole kitchen sink at you.” While the ill effects of just one ingredient alone might not be that great, when you add them all together (like 15-25 different herbs that ALL increase blood circulation) the effects can be really harmful. In effect, taking these pills is like over-dosing on prescription drugs.

Most Women Do NOT Want the Men They Love To Take Penis Pills

I have explored the issue of penis pills with several of my male friends as I have been trying to understand better WHY so many men take them. At first, I thought it might be because they really didn’t understand how harmful they can be. However, from talking with my friends, I have come to realize that the main reason most men take them usually boils down to wanting to please and impress their female partners. However, when I talk with my girlfriends about penis pills, they all express great concern about the health hazards and they all say they would much rather their guys didn’t take these pills – regardless of any supposed or perceived benefits.

If a woman encourages you to take penis pills after knowing all the dangerous side effects, she does not really care about you or your well-being and it is not worth staying with her. Trust me, you will have a much more satisfying sex life with a woman who truly cares about you and wouldn’t want you to take that kind of risk.

If your libido has shifted into low gear since becoming a mother, you are not alone. With ever increasing demands on a mother’s time and energy, it’s easy to see why sex can become last on your list. But regular sex with your partner can reduce stress, improve self-esteem and even strengthen your immune system. Ready to make your sex life a priority again? Here are some tips:

Exercise. Any regular cardiovascular exercise and deep stretching targeted at the pelvic region increases blood flow to the genitals. Think yoga, power walking, jogging or cycling – all these increase circulation to the pelvic region, and as a result, can ignite sexual desire and orgasmic function. Practicing your kegel exercises several times a day will also strengthen the vaginal muscles and can increase libido. Sex and exercise have been proven to help reduce stress, so engaging in both on a regular basis should help you stay happy and relaxed.

Eat libido-enhancing foods. Testosterone is the key hormone responsible for sexual desire, and its production is dependent on zinc and vitamin B. Foods high in these nutrients include raw oysters, avocado, nuts (especially almonds), asparagus, eggs, bananas, pine nuts, brown rice, and pumpkin seeds. Spices such as ginger and cayenne can also increase circulation to the pelvic regions. Sweets should be limited to dark chocolate, a potent antioxidant that also stimulates endorphins.

Grooming. When was the last time you gave your va-jay-jay a hair cut and a new outfit? Just giving her a trim and a little shave can work wonders. If you have the time (and pain tolerance) give the Brazilian wax a go. Then go out and buy some new sexy underwear.

Schedule time. It might sound unromantic, but designate a block of time – be it one night, morning or afternoon a week – with your partner. Take turns bringing something new to the bedroom, such a sex toy, illustrated magazine, video, or technique. By planning ahead, you’re making your sex life a priority, and making a commitment you’ll keep – just as you would any other important meeting or event.

Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. As women age, the yin element of the body-part of what is responsible for sexual desire-begins to decline. Fluctuations in hormones and changes in menstrual cycles can also play a role in decreased desire. Add to this the demands of raising children, and no its no wonder so many of us are complaining of loss of libido! Regular acupuncture can regulate hormones, ease depression, increase blood flow to the pelvic region, increase cervical mucous, and decrease stress (a libido killer).

Sleep. Regularly getting a good night’s sleep is another great way to boost your sex drive. As moms, we all know how important sleep is for our children, and the same is true for ourselves. A good night’s rest also balances hormones, helps us better cope with stress and can increase endurance between the sheets.

Increase Cervical Mucous. Evening primrose oil, fish oil, vitamin E and flax oil can all increase cervical mucous and vaginal lubrication. These supplements, high in essential fatty acids, have also been shown to support the reproductive system and decrease depression. L-Arginine, an essential amino acid, increases blood flow to the genital regions and can therefore increase sexual desire. Limiting caffeine and alcohol (both dehydrating) and increasing water intake can also help with vaginal lubrication.

Build up your mental fantasy library. For most women, desire starts with mental stimuli. Pick up a new racy novel, or take a break from e-mailing and check out sites such as literotica.com or sextails.com. Then take your fantasy to the bedroom and have fun!

Pay attention. To your cycles, that is. Women generally experience a heightened sex drive prior to ovulation or just before menstruation. Pick a week when you and your partner don’t have too much going on, when you can exercise and get good sleep. Increasing your sex drive is not going to happen over night, but if you make it a priority, implement some of the above tips, you can well be well on your way!

Improving your sex life can be a lot easier. You do not need to stuff yourself with those mostly medically unproven aphrodisiacs. What you need to do to get a robust sex life is simply to let your body digest a broad range of vitamins and nutrients from your daily diet. The basic requirement for a healthy sex life is to have a well-balanced diet.

I am going to highlight the 6 things you need to take note of in your eating habits that can help to improve your romantic life as well as overall health

(1) A balanced meal vs. a carbohydrate-heavy meal

Susan Kleiner, a registered dietitian, recommends your meal should include protein and fiber, such as yogurt with fresh berries or peanut butter on whole wheat toast, soya food products (such as tofu or soybean curd), smoked salmon scramble, high protein oatmeal banana chocolate chip mookies (muffin and cookie combo), vegetables, high fiber fruits (guava, pineapple, green apple, lime, lemon), low sugar soya milk, low sugar red bean soup, low sugar barley soup. As this combination of protein- and fiber-laden food needs a longer time for your body to digest, you will be able to stay energetic most of the time, so you can enjoy the sensuous moment with your partner.

Avoiding eating too much of those refined carbohydrates foodstuff such as bagel with cream cheese, refined cereals, cookies, puddings, pasta, custards, processed grains, doughnuts, cakes, candies, soft drinks, soda which can quickly raise your blood sugar level and then shortly plunge causing you to feel lethargic and have less mood for sex.

(2) Plain water and fruits vs. sugar-laden caffeinated drinks

When you wake up in the morning and/or after your normal workout, it is a good idea to drink enough of plain water to replenish the loss of fluid and to prevent yourself from getting dehydrated. How much of fluid is enough for you? The best guide is to look at the color of your urine. If it is yellowish, it means your body is still lack of water and this means you have to down a few more glasses of plain water. Throughout the day, you can supplement this with low-calorie beverages (e.g. green tea, Chinese tea, fruit juices) and fruits with high water content (e.g. water melons, lime, red grapes, lemon, carrot, tomato) to meet your body requirements. Keeping yourself hydrated can help you to stay mentally and physically alert most of the time to give you that “extra mileage” in bed.

A cup of coffee or tea can perk up your morning and help you to stay focused, but more than 2 cups can over-stimulate and get you feel tensed even at the end of the day. Avoid drinking too much of those sugar-laden beverages (natural fruit juice is okay) or soft drinks that can cause your blood sugar level to swing widely.

(3) Eating unsaturated fats vs. red meat and processed baked food

If you stick strictly to a very low-fat diet, your body will be deprived off those fats that necessary to produce the sex hormones (testosterone, estrogen) which can dampen your sex desire. A way to overcome this is to eat healthy unsaturated fats (especially those with omega-3 fatty acids) that can be found in olive oil, fatty fish, nuts and cod liver oil. For women, omega-3 fatty acids can help to prevent premenstrual syndrome and post menopausal hot flashes.

Avoid eating too much of those unhealthy saturated and trans fats which can be found in red meat and processed baked food. They can clog up your blood vessels and restrict blood flow to the genitals. According to a study done by the University of South Carolina School of Medicine on the cholesterol levels and sex lives of 3,250 men between ages 26 and 83, high levels of total cholesterol and low levels of high-density lipoprotein (HDL which is the good cholesterol) are the major causes for erectile dysfunction.

(4) Eating chicken, fish and lean protein vs. high calories junk food

Our bodies need enough of protein to maintain the dopamine level in the brains. Dopamine is associated with the feelings of happiness and romance and may help men with erectile dysfunction problem.

Avoid eating too much of those fast food, fried foodstuff (such as fried potato chips) that can cause unwanted accumulation of unhealthy fats in your body which can eventually hurt your sex drive. Should you feel the urge to nibble anything or snack out of boredom, you can consider melon seeds, low-fat frozen yoghurt, unsalted roasted pumpkin seeds, unsalted roasted sunflower seeds, unsalted roasted peanuts, and unsalted roasted cashew nuts.

(5) Having a glass of wine after meal vs. over 2 glasses of wine, beer, or liquor

A glass of wine (especially red wine) can help in blood circulation which is good for the heart and also get you in the mood for intimacy and lovemaking by keeping you relaxed. However, too much of alcoholic beverages can depress your central nervous system, making you feel sleepy and dampening your mood for sex.

(6) Munching on dark chocolates vs. having a heavy meal before sex

According to a German study published in the journal Appetite, chocolate can help to immediately boost the mood of most women and this effect can linger on for about 90 minutes. On the other hand, having a heavy meal will divert most of the blood flow to your digestive system and very little to your genitals which can hurt sexual performance.

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